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Monday 10 March 2014
TEACHER THIRD CHILD
Good morning , hopefully on a sunny morning , god gives us and our families physical and mental health . amen
This
morning , I as an admin will discuss about the character of the child ,
how to shape the character of children to behave well and polite ? That's all , could be influenced by three things : parents , school teachers , and the environment . Here , I will focus on three things to " ENVIRONMENT " or referred to as " TEACHER THIRD CHILD " .
A girl about four years old , asked her mother busy . Finish the question , he asked again . At the same time , her mother was talking to the child's uncle . Was disturbed by his nephew , the uncle felt his pack of cigarettes
, and then threw it at his nephew 's mouth , " basic chatty " said his
uncle scolded .
The child is then shocked , screaming and crying to his mother . In addition to feeling pain in her mouth , she also felt hurt by the rough treatment of her uncle . Then her mother comforted her . Long story short , the child now grown , married and have two kids . Despite the bad experience it has been passed almost 35 years , but he felt as though it were yesterday .
He was hated at his uncle and felt disappointed with his mother which he did not defend it . Entertainment at that time provide it only minimally and not solve the problem . The child was traumatized by items related to smoking , such as ashtrays or lighters . Many years these girls live in fear of the goods and feel traumatized .
That experience somehow makes it often afraid to ask and do not want to try to find out more about the one thing he learned . The girl has now earned a master's degree from two different fields .
Another story happened in a motivational training for primary school children . The coach gives direction important to be careful in seeing pictures or impressions on the internet or television . One of the boys looked dreamy and smiled to herself , without listening to the material described .
The child is then in talking to. Though
at first he was evasive , but in the end he admitted that he had seen a
porn movie scene in the driver cell phone for 10 minutes every day .
When the information is accurate, the child 's mother confirmed it . Finally the driver was fired . Although
the driver was gone , but the impact of his behavior remained attached
to the child's brain and lead to deviant behavior . The child is often stunned , daydreaming and concentration and if in Tanya , the answer is often incoherent .
In
conclusion , from the two stories above , describe the role of the "
third teacher " for the children " environment " after parents and
teachers at school . Many
parents are not aware of the dangers at the same time the role of the "
third teacher " is , among other things : a housekeeper , driver ,
relatives , neighbors , even the guests who come . All of it can be a teacher for children .
Not
enough training parents and find a good school , but it is also
important to look at the situation and condition of the third teacher in
order not to damage the physical or mental . In the first story , the mother should admonish his brother ( uncle of the child ) that it is inappropriate in doing . Problems must get to the bottom , until the child does not carry the load until he was an adult . It does not change the lesson of " third teacher " is. However , there was no choice but to teach them how they should behave in children . Therefore , you should never entrust the children to the " third teacher " that we do not know for certain behaviors. Their behavior will also affect the behavior of our children .
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Thank you for reading this post simple , I hope what I say helps. may we all be given a happy and harmonious family by God merciful and all- merciful . amen
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Get to know yourself
In the tradition of a tribe in Africa , when a woman realized she was pregnant . He went with some friends to a place in the jungle . Together they pray and meditate until they hear ( in prayer and meditation they are ) a typical baby singing . When they are already familiar with the baby singing voice , they then sang with a melodious voice .
After that , they returned to their village , and they teach that song to everyone who was there . When the child was born , people gathered and sang the song. And when the boy had started to school days , people gather and sing the same song .
When the boy had grown up , once again all the people gathered and sang the same again . When married , everyone sang the song. Just before his death , the people and the child associates
gathered and sang the song of precision when the child will be born .
On another occasion , in which the people in the village are also singing the same song . If
on one day in the course of his life , the child commits a crime or an
act outside its social fairness , then he will be brought to the middle
of the village . There all the villagers make a circle , and sing the same song around the child.
A friend is one who knows you chant and sing to you when you yourself forget it .
The impression conveyed in the story above is that your soul has its own song . Your energy and special purpose dictated by talent , talents , skills , desires and your views . When
you feel happy and act on the basis of the feeling of pleasure that,
then your heart will be fulfilled and your life will be fun . And conversely , when you lose touch of your liking , then you will
feel empty , your life feels frustrating and you will wonder what
you're doing in life .
In
fact , when you made was not thinking clearly because of fear and
obstacles in your life , your singing is still alive in you . Twang tone is still strong in your life . When you face difficulties , various twists and setbacks of life ,
your soul guide you from the inside , forcing you to keep going and
reaching the light of happiness .
When you face a big challenge , the knowledge within you come
forward with a force that has never existed before , all the lessons you
bring your life to move back into the rhythm of your soul .
Others may seek to influence the order you do not you sing but they sing . If you do that then your life is full of flavor not like and you will lose your voice . To get it back , get back in touch with you and did according to the truth on the basis of the truth .
You can help others by reminding them of who they are . Dropping the dignity of others, mutual show of force and accuse
each other , an act that is not true , these actions encourage people
away from their happiness .
When
someone is in a state of distress or there is a conflict , help them to
remember who they are , and they do not need to hurt others . sincere expressions will bring , healing , relief and peace . Remember
your singing or in this case yourself , your position and your home
state so you have your own appeal and would be a fun person . You will also find peace within yourself .
Hopefully
this post useful for all of us , hopefully there are things that can be
learned and hopefully inspire our lives for the better . amen
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Posted by Motivasi hidup
Thursday 6 March 2014
HOW TO COMPLETE CONFLICT WITHOUT VIOLENCE
Often communities to resolve conflicts with word attack and physical attacks.
When Prophet Ibrahim, instructed by Allah to slaughter his son Prophet Ismail. Abraham felt restless all day and he thought of the command. Eventually, he ventured a dialogue with her. Abraham said to his son, "O my son, indeed I have dreamed in god commanded to sacrifice, say what you think.? Abraham replied, O my father, do what in gods commanded thee. Indeed you will see me among those who are patient. "(Ash-Shaffat: 102)
A big problem can be solved by a dialogue with Abraham wise not to use physical violence to force his son to follow his orders. And also do not use abusive words as a parent to her child.
There are four stages of conflict resolution appropriate stages of child development, among others, as follows:
1. Passive,
at this stage the child is almost no social contact and communication
with the environment, this step is done by a baby who can not talk and
do much, let alone solve the problem.
2. The
second stage is physical attacks, the kids who are aged 2-3 years,
often finishing with a physical attack, by the way: tantrums (angry),
screaming, biting, kicking, hitting or throwing objects. He does not have the words to solve the problem. When wanting a toy, a child will immediately seize or when angry at his friend, he would immediately hit.
3. Attack
of words (verbal aggression), when children aged 4-6 years, then
physical attacks will be reduced, but they begin to understand the power
of words. They will move to the stage of "offensive words". 4 year old girl, sometimes saying, "ugly clothes".
4. Language,
at this stage, a child is able to resolve the problem with the
language: positive sentence, not rude, and not judgmental. It is caused due to the development of good emotional control maturity. Children at primary school age or the age of 7 years should have reached the stage language to resolve the problem. For example: when a child is being made with the building blocks, another friend nudged the building. The boy then said "I do not like you ruin my building". His friend replied. "Sorry, I did not mean" up here, the problem is solved, then both children continue their activities.
Prophet Ibrahim and Prophet Ismail small, solve the problem with the language. This way is rarely done by the nation today. Why, in this day and age people often solve problems with physical attacks or verbal assault.? That's because, there are problems in education at an early age. In fact, if a child has a problem in terms of behavior and attitude, then it will cause problems in adulthood. The ability of social emotions such as respect and get along well with others. important for success in adulthood.
Therefore, the education of children at an early age should be done properly and seriously. Karen if you want to change the behavior of children who are already large, will require a very long time and substantial funds.
So, in conclusion, the future security and prosperity of a nation depends on early childhood education. As the successor of the next generation. Are suggested, every child receives a quality education, moral and polite.
A few posts today, may be useful for us all. Let us pray for a moment, hopefully we can be parents and parents can set a good example for our children. hopefully we get a happy and prosperous life in the world and in the hereafter. amen
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My parents got married again
Age is something that can not be in the know, as well as the age of marriage. Whether separated by divorce or death. Children,
it is definitely feeling the effects of the breakup, what more if the
child is still living with their parents, then decided to get married
again. So also are felt by Asti, his father chose to marry again. His father's decision to marry again after her mother died. Asti make objections.
Another with the great, his father married again when his mother was seriously ill. Remarried parents did right, what more if one of them can not meet its obligations. However,
the marriage would not only involve those who are getting married,
there are children who can not ignore the rights and feelings. There is also a large family that houses the marriage bond.
Marriage also should increase the closeness with God, and also not missing a fellow human being. So that the marriage is a blessing for all the families.
Adult attitude.
This
is where the maturity needed parents who want to get married again,
because this is the most important thing in making a decision .. but,
the thing to note is that the child will receive a pair of characters as
a stepparent. Therefore, in the opinion of the child's need to assess the criteria for their stepparents. There must be no conflict that would preclude a parent wishes to get married again.
Children also need to understand, to get married again, more than meets the requirements. This
is an all-knowing god commands, Allah says "and was the inbred ones
alone among you, and decent people (married) between your servants that
which your servant men and women .. if they are poor Allah will enrich them with all the grace and knowledge of Allah is vast and all-knowing. (An-Nur: 32)
In
this case, a loyal member of the family should give support and
understanding to parents who are getting married again, especially from
extended family, maturity is in need in response to this decision. All should be receiving comfort and mutual understanding, both of the child and of the large family.
Quality self
Anyone who decides to get married again, definitely expect a better life than before. This expectation should certainly offset by the quality of self in a previous marriage. Parents must have the emotional maturity of a better and more mature personality. However, the parents have to remain optimistic that this condition can live well. One of the most important things parents must show the child and family about the great wedding destination in doing it. And last, rest assured that happiness is not something that can be without a struggle and patience. Therefore,
it is very important for parents, children, and families should equally
uphold the gods command, ... "and hang out with them in a good way. If you do not like them (the patient) because it could be you do not like something, but good god make him kindness. (An-NIssa.: 19)
A few posts today, may be useful. Thank you for visiting. may we all be given health and family life filled with the grace of god. amen
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How to overcome problems in the family life
, Invites couples to the road gods, is the presence of a field test at a time of worship that tested the patience and faith. Everyone is always changing, and that change always brings new things in life, including households. However, in view of the changes either by one spouse, not necessarily also considered as a good thing by others. Turned into something better is something that is expected, but no shared vision, hope it can turn into anxiety.
Because
marriage means living life with others then our perspective on the
issue was no longer an individual perspective, but the perspective
should involve other people. so
even when we decided to move towards a better, not just ignore what we
understand, which is important for any couple thinking in consider.
This is then called to grow along with the couple. Grow together to achieve the common good, not the best and there is no one left behind by kindness. Even in the matter of truth, prudence and the best methods to be able to run together the truth, it is in need. Encourage
couples to be able to grow in the truth that previously we get is
worship that should be run at the same time wholeheartedly requires hard
work. It
would be very alarming, when the couples who have many years of life
accompany finally just want to be left behind., Just because of our
impatience to lead him to the truth.
For reasons that are not based on Islamic thought. Indeed he is a field worship almighty god has given us. Think of him as the grace that comes from the gods to further strengthen the truths we have handheld. Existence itself is medium to remove the sins we have done before coming instructions. Led to the truth of what we have seen is the way to remove traces of errors and aggravate the scales goodness. Please know that we have real couples this is a test from god almighty. Hold on to keep him on the truth of god come to a decision. If
god decides he became someone who opposed his orders and try to
pull us back to the past mistakes so give him the best way, the best way
it means a good divorce.
Tolerant to end a marriage that was never connected. Due to the nature of the actual divorce to facilitate and pave the life of a married couple who can not be together anymore.
God almighty said, ".... And once in a while he does not make for you in a narrow religion .. "(al-hajj {22}: 78)
However, once again, this is a last resort that should be present in the mind of a believer. Previously, reflect back, have a couple we become our first priority to get clues as we get.
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