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Saturday, 15 March 2014
Honesty brings blessings ,story begins in 2006 , when home from school teaching I always made
time to stop by the store to buy a few pieces of fruit . At that time the price of one kilogram of fruit only five thousand . As usual , I bought 1 kilogram mangoes . I paid a fraction of 10 thousand , and the change my direct input into the bag . Without thinking , I immediately went on my way home . Arriving home , I was shocked , it turns out that there is money in
my purse very numerous , 95 thousand and my mind went immediately to
the fruit merchant .
The
question arises in the heart , " the trader does not see that the money
I give it 10 thousand instead of 100 thousand ( the color is almost the
same ) . Do you think he was confused or is this a test for me ?that morning , I decided to go to the fruit sellers , fruit vendors there I saw it was after finish merchandise . Before I say hello , she had greeted me first ." So early had to store fruit , what fruit would ? Asked the merchant .
" Ah , no nothing, I no need to you "With wondered , the merchant said, " there needs to be what ?
Then I recounted the incident yesterday , . Finished,
the merchant directly tells what happened yesterday , " that time , I
was thinking , why today my sales are not lucky , but the fruit is sold a
lot of money Just a little bit . Then I begged the instructions on the gods , " O my God , if indeed it
is my sustenance then return it , but if it's not then take my
sustenance " .Apparently, the gods heard my prayers , and that money back from you today . Thank you , may Allah repay you , " .
" Equally , should not we fellow Muslims helping others in goodness , "
I feel relieved , I finally get to do what I should do . But there is something interesting after that after that incident ,
I bought every fruit in the stores I always get extra fruit , thanks god , although just a little but a blessing .
So far, I have always pondered , that , if we do good to anyone ,
anywhere , then Allah will open the door for his gift to us from an
unexpected direction .
Thank you for visiting , I hope what I say helps. Arabic proverb says , " do not look ready to deliver that , but look at what is delivered by it " .
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Achieving a brighter future for children
Unknowingly , many parents are putting teenage children still like
the first , but now with the teenager who has always been very different
.
In this globalization era , news of fighting between students and students still sounded , some even lost their lives . Sadness and of course we feel a sense of concern . In fact , in their teens are still a lot of positive potential that should be developed . But it all ends up in advance of the end of the arms of fellow his students .
It could be , that the victims are not involved in the brawl . When anger has mastered the soul then there is the dark eyes , who is close to the target of anger . The question is , why teenagers today combustible emotions to something that sometimes things are trivial ? Then what is the cause ?
Strengthen family life
Many experts are analyzing the causes of juvenile delinquency . Starting
from a broken home , even environmental influences society and state
system that is not conducive to mental and spiritual development of
young people . Seeing situations like this , the thing to note is to strengthen
the defense of family and faith instilled a strong value on the entire
family .
Family as the first bastion should be strengthened . Because
it is the only shelter for youth , faith in the family must be
strengthened so that the teens are not susceptible to the problems . The family is the first school for the children , because it is
very important for them to obtain education about moral values .
Communicating healthy
One way to build resilience in families is to communicate healthy . Adolescence is different from when they were children . Now they already have a personality that should not be disturbed by others , often parents feel ignored . Actually there are a lot of questions in our minds and in the minds of teenagers .
They looked at some where it's hard to guess what they think . The parents should be positive about progress and change their behavior .
Active initiate communication
In terms of communication , there is no harm in parents must actively initiate communication first . Need
to be in the know by the parents , if teenagers do not like the style
of interrogation are questions , such as , " Where you been ? With whom ? You have to!
Avoid the attitude that we are spying on . Often called him , asking what he was doing or so .
Give them confidence
Spying on them can make them feel uncomfortable , either the parents or to his friends . As parents , we need to know with whom they associate . We gave them confidence , but still should be able to keep an eye on them .
Be a good listener for them
Sometimes , teenagers do not want to tell the parents because they are considered not serious about listening . When they told me , listen to them , watch them , and give them advice if necessary against what they tell me . It would be wise , if parents respond to their stories with words of empathy .
Find the right time to communicate
Sensitivity of parents to determine the condition of the child is in need of adolescents . Do not get to talk to them when they 're tired with schoolwork or college assignments . Moments like eating together with family or street can be made in good time to communicate .
Hopefully this post gives us a lesson how should parents be a good friend for teenagers . Thank you for your visit . May you and your family gets unlimited happiness . amen
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Friday, 14 March 2014
How to teach moral values to children
A woman visited a special school for children suffering from serious illnesses . The school is located in a children's hospital . Age of the children who attend school there , in estimate by the medical team , will reach 12 years . To the teachers who teach at the school , she was asked about the
matter and learning model that is given to children whose life
expectancy is thin .
The teacher said , " that we teach in this class is how to make them feel safe , excited , happy , in love and in love. This class is conditioned so that the children have the virtues that the rest of his life meaningful . "For a moment , she muses , " if the children whose lives are lived
only a few moments , they are taught the values of kindness and they
are conditioned so that they feel happy and optimistic , then what about
schools for children who have the possibility to live long ? "
Disturbed
by the question " the woman then set up an agency that helps schools to
prioritize the teaching of positive values of life , and not merely
academic . The concept he get by the African philosophy of life that is Ubuntu , which means , " I , as you , because we are " .
The purpose of this program is to produce children who are emotionally ready to learn and want to learn . For schools that involve the wider community with the surrounding community in order to do a collaboration . Program activities include intervention , training , and support to
the entire community , namely : the principal, the teachers , not the
students faculty , and parents to find , cultivate and instill positive
values both at school and in the community .
Exposure above we will teach the students a problem in our country , especially violence . It's amazing to hear the phrase one of the accused stating brawl
satisfied and do not regret after killing a fellow student friend .
In
fact in the Qur'an , Allah says , " To kill someone , not because that
person ( kill ) another person , or for spreading mischief in the land ,
it is as if he has killed all mankind . And those who preserve human
life , it is as if he had been entirely maintain both human life . " ( Al - Maidah [ 5 ] : 32 )
Looking
at the growing phenomenon of the fight either of the number or of
aggressiveness , showed deterioration of the current student behavior . A mother claimed her son goodbye to anxious every school . Comes to mind is the possibility of something bad happening to her son .
Reflecting
on UBUNTU program , need a special movement that involves all parties,
schools , parents and the surrounding community in teaching and running
the noble moral values in life . This program is for all the components of society , not only in children and adolescents , but also all adults and the elderly .
Arabic proverb says , " do not see who delivered but look at what is conveyed by it " .
Hopefully this post there are benefits that can be learned . And , I hope we can be a parent or prospective parent is wise to choose the education for our children . amen
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When the baby never comes
Have a baby or not , for it is a pair human destiny .
There is a story , two friends who have not met . With the fate of the gods , they finally met in a train . Like most people . They immediately hugged each other and longing to tell . There is also the theme of the story jumping around , from one theme to another . however , the first time at the ask is , stay where present , are married or not , already have children how many ?
Then
, one of them , let's call him Albert , start telling stories, and he
already has two children , the most oldest and youngest men women . When he was asked back on his best friend , let's call him Eric . Erick lineament visible change . It appears there is something in her hamper . Apparently, since married for 10 years , he has not had a baby . That's when Eric tells her story in the journey of the household to Albert .
Then Erick continued his story . " From the beginning to be married, I'm trying to not reject women my future wife . So I found a partner who think religion is good. " Said Erick .
The first days of marriage with the woman he did not know it . Making Erick awkwardly . However , they are trying to understand , recognize and foster a sense of love and affection . As time passed , my wife and the ship sailed home for almost no waves . However , although there is a little ripple , that is where we learn to strengthen and improve any shortcomings .
According to Erick , his wife was a romantic , women are patient and diligent worship . Ten years is the age of their marriage . Erick and his wife continue to strive and strive , many years had they passed , but they had not yet had children . According to the doctor , they are both in good health .
Erick and his wife continue to be patient , if they do not have children , it is a destiny . Albert was concerned to hear the story of Erick . He did not think exams are natural companions in the patient and how they deal with it ." I'm trying to understand and feel the anxiety a woman's heart . I am increasingly aware of the limitations of a weak man . Who knows how long . Time has taught me and my wife to remain united in love and unfortunately god . "
Albert pensive for a moment and muttered to himself , " indeed , were it not for the love , patience and sincere . Erick domestic travel may already foundered . Love teaches them still survive , sincerity and patience to teach them faithfully teach them not resigned .
The presence of a child in the household is a yearning . In fact , can be regarded as a form of perfect happiness for husband and wife . However , there are still many couples who have not had children . Like Erick . Normally , if this happens often blame each pair . The
presence of children in the household , not the power of the husband or
wife , but because of the love and unfortunately the almighty creator
god almighty giver again . It is all destiny . In order not to blame God .
Erick tale , it can be a learning . Patience , understanding and mutual support between spouses . Hope can be a lesson for anyone who suffered the same fate . And be grateful for anyone who has had a baby . May we all , including those who are patient . amen
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Thursday, 13 March 2014
Express anger and maintain intimacy
Good morning, hopefully today we are all healthy and happy. But, if perhaps all of us there who have problems with their partner, but do not know how to handle it. because of the possibility of our partner rampart. for that, there is little here that is very Simpler solution. I'm sure you all can do well. hopefully can help you. please refer to
One day , a man came to me . These young men sat and talked , even he has not introduced himself and asked if I had time to listen to the story . He kept talking . Whether or not I listen to him , he did not notice me .
When my kitchen to get a drink , he was just talking to myself . I conclude , this man must have a very severe emotional problems . Because it is so heavy , he could not even control herself and her
mind , she no longer needs a listener but he needs a chance to dump the
contents of the liver and guilt completely.
The first meeting , I almost do not understand what is in talk about . The next meeting , he told me again , this time he could tell clearly . Although still repeating his word . At the next meeting , start invisible core of the story . He experienced a conflict in the household which no completion .
The cause of the problem is the man , his wife often acted rude to him , even physically hurt . In addition , the nature of both equally rampart , irritable and emotional . Actually it does not matter if the husband and wife both have
properties that hard , as long as they can understand each other and
understand the nature of each .
Starting from each other the nature of each pair , or we have to know what are the signs that spouse is angry , bad mood . we can act immediately on what to do in order not to explode emotionally . If you already know the signs , we can determine more quickly follow and refrain from behavior that is alluded to . So instead provoke emotions out , this is often referred to as
emotional maturity , ability to recognize , understand , and accept the
good .
Furthermore premises couples can communicate in a positive way and not hurt each other . Or it could also express this emotion in a way that is convenient , for example , "sorry , I 'm angry "
If not possible , a husband or wife can express negative emotions to the full. Can speak openly and carefully , but must exercise restraint and not to blame . We must remember that , personal communication conjugal aims to
achieve the best completion point . , Relieve settlement , valued and
heard .
Up here , we do not need to rush to find a solution of the problems that are being hit . There is a tendency , in a situation like this , we are still not thinking clearly . Instead , we tend to still want to win the argument and even each corner . If
we are still not thinking clearly, as good as any in the proposed way
out by couples , we still can not accept it for what it is . That is why , we need to hold back for a moment . Most importantly , we can ( husband and wife ) can be a win-win in every dispute .
Even
if the case , we still peaking emotions spouse , you need to do is hold
back for a moment , accept each emotion , do not sue , blaming . Although the error was available to him , remained silent and hold down for a moment . If
emotions had subsided , and each pair had known each other know what is
not in love , then the husband and wife can be sure to be looking for
atmosphere , time and place to communicate well . Discuss the problem with your heart quiet and relaxing . If not invited to speak calmly and relaxed , then the best way is to discuss it with him to eat . Because if in conscientious deeper . 90 % - growing love of eating good food . Next, discuss the problem of heart to heart .
I hope this short post is useful, may be a lesson for all of us and hopefully can give you inspiration and motivation to be a pair of healthy living in a family.
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Wednesday, 12 March 2014
Working mark grateful
" Work , O family of David to give thanks , and few of my servants are grateful " ( Saba ' : 13 )
Meaning grateful
Among the prophets , Prophet Daud was a messenger god who received direct praise of Allah . In the Qur'an , Prophet Daud often mention as a servant who always repent and be grateful . How does a servant grateful to god ? In this case , there are many ways a slave show gratitude to Allah . Including by giving praise to the gods , calling her name and exalt his greatness .
Moreover , by doing a lot of worship and do much good could also demonstrate a sense of gratitude .
A strong work ethic
For those who believe , work ethic is something that should never be loose in his life . Therefore , the nature of life in this world is only temporary and momentary . While the ultimate goal of life is the afterlife . Therefore , every man in demand to continue to work , to gain merit
and goodness as a preparation towards eternal life in the hereafter .
Work also includes worship , even when working in the workplace or when ever we can do the worship . For example like : grateful for our work , grateful for positions in the workplace , co-workers appreciate . All of it is a form of worship of gratitude . If we be thankful in this life , then the gods will add to any provision of mercy and compassion . And conversely , if we refuse it, then Allah will give us the torment and punishment .
Only a few are grateful
Although flattered by this grateful gods , but people are grateful just a little . Though rewards for people who give thanks very much . It proved , disobedience is more in enjoy than on obedience . Often times we give thanks to the gods , when the survivors of the disaster that will harm our souls . but when he received a gift of a human , we are just grateful to the man that, instead of thanking god . That is why , what we get very little benefit. thanks for god , then what we would get in the like thereof .
To that end , they asked " O my god , what the hell can I do to thank you ? Because gratitude is also part of the favors that you give . God then said " with this realization that, then you have been
grateful to me , when you realize that everything in this life can not
be separated out of favor and affection . ' ( History of at - Tirmidhi )
.
So , I hope this post helps. may we include servants belonging as a grateful servant . amen
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How to keep yourself from temptation
Good morning my beloved world , this morning I am going to share a little story of inspiration and motivation . Exemplary tale of the prophet joseph alaihi wassalam . I'm sure you 've all heard the story of Prophet joseph , who tested with good looks and lust temptation of women . So , what lessons can be taken from the story . Let's look at the story . May be useful .
The woman was very interested in the handsome youth who live together in the house . Hold so long he missed and always teased turmoil . Now when the house is quiet , beautiful women and rich , orchestrated to frame him . He called into a luxurious room . " Let's here ' as he locked the door from inside .
Now they were alone in the room . Turmoil that women lust was unbearable and forced the young man to serve him. It will even threaten him , to imprison him if the young man would not obey his will . Which youth would not be attracted to a beautiful woman and rich , nobles anyway . When such that , anyone can be tempted and fall into immorality ..
This is the toughest test experienced by joseph before being made a prophet . Joseph
was overwhelmed to deal with it , but he could be saved by faith in the
possessed , the temptation as it could have happened , in men or women .
Especially at times like this that is free . With what we fortify themselves against the temptations of lust ? What wisdom and lessons that we can get ?
fortress heart
face
the temptation of lust is not easy , because it do not try to provoke
the arrival of temptation .. when temptation came to attack , Joseph just
as strong as a human can be overwhelmed . Moreover, ordinary people like us . fort prepare yourself if you do not want to tear down by temptation .
Every human being , in fact has been given the ability to maintain itself . Humans can see which way to go on through, straying road or the path of truth . When humans are in the way of error, his heart will be restless . Purity of heart must remain on guard so as not to fall into disobedience .
Everyone will feel uneasy at first , if he's going to commit a crime . Feel anxious and unsettled . This is a sign that we quickly away from him . but if these signs are ignored , then the anxiety in his heart will be increasingly felt . Moreover , if he committed the crime over and over again . People who like this , it can not advise again , even those who
advise him even in hostile , because it is considered blocking pleasure .
How safe is facing away from the temptations of lust . but , most people now not even care anymore with all of it . The world is already filled with all the pleasures of lust and temptation of Satan . Nowadays , it is difficult to protect oneself from the temptations . Everywhere found many things that will set us up to the temptations of lust .
A
lot of good people , can get stuck in disobedience , though there is no
desire to do so , but many ways in which to trap him . Therefore, the things we need to do to protect yourself from the
temptation is to take refuge in Allah , surrender to God and pray .
" Joseph said , I take refuge in Allah " ( Yusuf : 23 ) . Without the protection of the gods , man is weak . Do not be too confident to confront temptation . Because of this , often the one praying , pleading for help to the gods . May the gods give us clues to the path towards truth . Hopefully we get help from the gods , the gods we only refuge of various kinds of temptations . amen
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